Do you shame yourself over food choices? If you’re like many of us, what we say to ourselves in relation to what we eat can often be our own worst critic? I suggest a different take enjoying, yes enjoying, your eating experience and it starts with this simple nugget of truth. Choose your thoughts wisely. What you think is what you get?
Ever had one of those bad days and things keep going downhill? Whereas when you’re having an awesome day things are no stop amaze balls!?! It’s related to the law of attraction. We attract events, people, and experiences into our lives.
I think Dr. Wayne Dyer says it best with this quote:
“Low energy attracts low energy. Low energy thoughts, such as anger, hate, shame, guilt, and fear, weaken you. And they attract more of the same. By changing your inner thoughts to the higher frequencies of love, harmony, kindness, peace, and joy, you’ll attract more of the same, and you’ll have those higher energies to give away”.
In other words reframing your stinkin’ thinkin’ can improve your attitude and relationship with food in a positive way. When you feel bad about your eating experience it does not leave you open to feeling good.
Stop Negative Thoughts From Ruining Your Meal
• All-or-nothing thinking backfires consistently. This leads to guilt and deprivation, powerful triggers for more emotional overeating. Find the gray.
• Reframe I can’t eat “X” or I shouldn’t eat “X” instead too…. I choose to eat “X”.
• Enjoy getting your toes wet without jumping in the pool. Eating a piece of cake doesn’t have to turn into several pieces and an attitude shift such as “I blew it” or “I will start again tomorrow’’ or “Might as well eat the rest”.
• Each tasty bite is a new opportunity to feed yourself well in a loving, non-judgmental way. Learn to eat mindfully. Check out mindful eating resources at amihungry.com
• Instead of automatically assuming that “I can’t do this”, focus on solving the problem instead of using your energy blaming yourself and feeling guilty. Cognitive distortions reflects that which YOU have the power to CHANGE! Simply identify what you don’t want then challenge it and change it to something you DO WANT!
• Instead of putting yourself down in a harsh, condemning way, talk to yourself in the same compassionate way you would talk to a friend with a similar problem.
• Quit “shoulding” on yourself. Instead of telling yourself, “I shouldn’t have eaten that!” you can tell yourself “It would be better if I hadn’t made that choice. Next time I will respond better”
I am soooo over guilt, shame and fear around food rather than celebrating our choices, our bodies and our abilities. Please know and understand you are enough, you are worthy of pleasure, you are successful. You do not have to be perfect nor eat perfectly or else scrap it all and say forget it. Knowing this simple truth you can make a big difference in how you feel.
Do yourself a favor this week, OK a homework assignment to do at every meal
Focus on celebrating your food choices and not shaming yourself. Choose to be happy about your choices and enjoy every bite (whatever it may be)
instead of feeling guilty and shamed. Then reflect back at the end of the week. Did you “flow” through the week with less guilt and more acceptance?